Me Time

Taking A Break from Overwhelm and From the Usual

It's Election Day and, as you can imagine, for those of us in NYC it's been overwhelming and at times emotional. I'll be glad when it's over though I'm sure this new phase will usher in its own set of challenges and emotions.

So changing the subject here to something more pleasant seems like a good idea.

I've been reading Advance Review Copies of books on NetGalley and once in a while something really impresses me. This week it was a debut novel called "Like Family" by Erin O. White.

It might be because I read a lot of romances that a novel exploring the ins and outs of long-term relationships and the people in them feels different and refreshing. The book focuses on three couples--two lesbian and one heterosexual. All three live in a small town in the Hudson River Valley in New York state and all three have small children.

The precipitating incident that opens the book involves the 16-year-old daughter of one of the lesbian couples who gets a letter from an attorney informing her that she's been named as a beneficiary of the will of someone she doesn't know. It turns out that someone is her biological dad, a former boyfriend of one of her moms from before her two moms met. Upset that this has been kept from her and that this man's death means she will never meet him, she's angry at her parents and this issue becomes a plot thread that takes us through the rest of the book.

But in addition, we learn about each of the couples--their relationships and their connections with one another. It's an excellent portrayal of the interiors of long-term marriages, long-term friendships (two women from two of the couples are best friends), and familial relationships (the husband in the straight couple is the cousin of one of women in one of the lesbian couples). The author does a great job of portraying the regrets, hopes, disappointments, resentments, needs, and confusions of the adult parents as well as their early lives and histories.

I'm sure there are many books that explore these same issues, but I don't usually come across them, and it's my guess that most don't include queer couples. So that's why this book felt like a find.

If you want a break from only-one-bed, ice queen, enemies-to-lovers, second chance, etc. tropes, take a look at Like Family.

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